Teenage pregnancy is a hot topic. For some reason, especially in the U.S., we don’t like to talk about sex or what could happen when you have it. For this reason, teenagers are misinformed about sex and the repercussions of it such as an unwanted pregnancy. Perhaps if teens knew the facts, they would wait or at least be more mature about having sex. Teenage girls who don’t take the proper precautions could get pregnant. Teenage boys who don’t make sure they take precautions could get a girl pregnant. Using a condom is not a full proof way to prevent pregnancy; you need another contraceptive to use with it.
Your parents may disown you. Unfortunately, this does happen, especially if parents are ‘super’ religious. They’re probably more disappointed in themselves than you. They’ll question what they did wrong as parents. They’ll question ‘why’ you got pregnant and what they could have done to prevent it from happening. Hopefully, parents will realize that stuff happens and help you deal with your teen pregnancy.
The baby could have birth defects. It’s possible that your baby could have birth defects because of your age. Since your body isn’t fully developed, it could play a role in whether or not your child has birth defects.
You could have a complicated pregnancy because of your young age. Again, your body isn’t fully developed or matured. This could cause you to have a complicated pregnancy which isn’t good for your or the baby’s health.
Your body will go through changes that you may not be ready to handle. You may not ready for the bodily changes that come with pregnancy. In fact, it could freak you out. You may not be ready for stretch marks, intense hormones, or weight gain. It’s important to eat a healthy diet which will provide you and your baby the proper nutrients. Don’t think about ‘starving’ yourself because you don’t want to gain weight. This isn’t healthy for you or your child.
Your friends could leave you. Unfortunately, your friends may not hang around with you if you have a child. They won’t be able to relate to you. They’ll want to go out on Friday and the weekend and do what teenagers do. They may even feel guilty because they get to be ‘footloose and fancy free’ while you increased responsibility. They may not know what to say or how to act around you. If your friends do leave, it’s important that you have support. Join a group for teenage moms. This way you’ll be surrounded by people who can relate to you and your situation.
You may not finish high school as scheduled. You may not finish high school on time, depending on when you’re scheduled to deliver your baby. Whatever you do — graduate from high school. Maybe you can make up classes during summer school or take the GED. Whatever you do, get your high school diploma!
Your boyfriend may not stand by you. Believe it or not, your boyfriend may not stand by you. He may stay for a few months, but the situation could overwhelm him. If this happens, it’s important to tell your child it’s not their fault. Mourn the loss of your boyfriend and move forward with your life. This won’t be easy at first but you’ll get through it.
You’re not emotionally or financially ready for kids. How developed are your emotions? How big is your checking and savings account? Do you have a checking and savings account? Having a child is a major responsibility that you’re probably not prepared for. Heck, most people in their 20s, 30s, and 40s aren’t prepared emotionally or financially to have kids. Having a child is a HUGE deal. Think about what you’ll need: food, shelter, clothing, money, love, and support. If you can’t provide the basic essentials for yourself, how will you be able to provide for a baby?
Having a baby so you can feel love is not a reason to have a child. Please don’t have a baby because you want to feel loved — this isn’t a good enough reason. Know that you’re valuable and have something to offer to this world. Love yourself and love will find you!
It’s painful. Having a child doesn’t tickle. Most women plan to forgo medication because they want a natural childbirth. However, they usually change their mind once the pain kicks in. Think about this: it’s like pushing a watermelon through a tiny hole. Ouch!
Obviously, the girl deals with the pregnancy more than the guy. Your body will change and it may become uncomfortable. Ask any woman about pregnancy and they’ll tell you it hurt likes heck! Some try to forgo using any medication but they usually have medication to numb the pain. Do you want to experience this at the age of 14, 15, or 16? If you think menstrual cramps hurt, try having a child!